As I scrolled through the evening news on my local news website, a particular headline caught my attention. My interest usually falls short of the modern celebrity and their antics but this time I decided to flick across and see what all the comotion was about.
What I saw was nothing short of distasteful and repulsive. If you’ve read the news today, no doubt you’ve already seen the images of Miley Cyrus’s performace at the MTV Awards. If it made your jaw drop, take comfort in the fact that Rihanna, Will Smith (and his family), Nick Cannon and a handful of other celebrities were also among the shocked and stunned audience who rather vehemently exposed their thoughts via Twitter. I don’t feel any need to discuss what viewers witnessed but I am reminded that Miley herself is only one year younger than I am – just twenty years old! Yet she is an example of a young woman who exemplifies everything opposite to what we promote here at Grace & Poise.
It is with this example in mind that, if I could, for a moment take you back to the year 2007: I was 16 years old. It was in the early months of January 2007 that my curiosity for an elegant life began to blossom. I remember quite vividly a conversation I had with my mother one summer’s afternoon, sharing with her my longing for mentor who I could look up to that held the qualities of a elegant and graceful woman. Although such women were far-and-few between at that stage in my life I began to take a great interest in the style, elegance and poise of Mary, the Crown Princess of Denmark.
If you have been following Grace & Poise for a few years you’ll have noticed that Princess Mary is featured quite frequently on this blog during those early years. Although, I’m yet to have the privilege of meeting her in person, I learned so much from her via newspaper interviews: her style, her elegance in difficult situations, her calm yet optimistic view on life. These values taught me so much and were encouraged by my mother who was delighted to watch me grow into a woman who desired these qualities.
It was with great interest that I searched the internet for websites that encouraged women to cultivate such qualities. My search proved unfruitful. I found it difficult to find any real, practical inspiration on such topics. I wondered… “surely I can’t be the only girl to desire such qualities in her life?” Perhaps there were other young girls and women around the world who pursed such a lifestyle? And that is when Grace & Poise was born… Out of young, humble roots came a little blog about a girl on a pursuit of a more poised, elegant and feminine life.
But this interest in an elegant life, was rather unique in the fact that few of my friends grasped my vision. When I shared with a handful of them my dreams of one day possessing this ladylike elegance and femininity I was presented with harsh responses. Some criticized me for the pictures I used, others mocked me for trying to be ladylike and yet others teased me with jealous remarks.
Yet here we are: 6 years on and still going strong. Those that previously mocked, criticized and teased me have now confessed their admiration of the fruits this blog has produced. Sometimes, I look back and see how far I’ve grown but other times I feel like I’ve only just begun.
The term ‘grace and poise‘ no longer resembles simply the way I walk or how I eat at the dinner table but it has extended into a lifestyle of graceful composure and elegant living. Yet, I don’t think I’ll ever reach a destination where I feel like I can resemble ‘elegance’ or have fully attained ‘poise’ but I believe through the challenges that life gives – I’ll continue my journey…
It is because of this very personal experience that I turn to these pages and share with you. That despite the sex-obsessed, raunchy world we live in, as Miley Cyrus so aptly displayed tonight – I’m still proud to promote grace & poise.